I’m what you could call shy. Here’s what happens when I am in a conversation with people I don’t know very well. My joints start to feel stiff and my breath gets shallow. Everything feels hard to move and I have to concentrate on breathing normally and not clutching one arm with the other. When … More On not exuding confidence
“I should hang onto this piece of paper, but I don’t want to get out the filing stuff…” “I should get out the packing list and double-check, but I’m pretty sure I’ve got everything…” “If I leave now, I’ll be early, so I’ll get back on the computer and try to just check one thing … More "I feel stupid."
I should be saving more. I should be traveling more. I should wash the dishes. I should figure out what I want to do with my life. I should read more books. Statements like these flit through my mind all the time. Clara wrote a few months ago about the way “should” statements induce anxiety: Whenever … More "Should" without the anxiety